Dealing with extended family??

rachmw

Hi all,

I have lost both of my parents and while I feel that I have overcome a majority of the initial grief there is still one thing I struggle with a lot and it’s dealing with my extended family especially around this time of year.

I never had a close relationship with my extended family as we all live so far away from each other. We’d probably see each other once every few months if that. The last time I saw any of them was in May at my dads funeral but I have them on Facebook to keep in touch even though we still don’t communicate on there.

I found coming up to Christmas I experienced a lot of resentment around my extended family as they sent Christmas cards and majority of them mentioned how hard this Christmas will be without my parents.

I just can’t help but think that losing my parents will always just be the majority of our conversations when we do meet up and I don’t want it to be. I’m not just someone who’s lost their parents I have so much more to me then just that and it angers me to think that’s all I’ll be to them.

At the end of the day I know they’re grieving my parents too and seeing me or my siblings will bring up memories and I understand that. But how do I navigate family events when I know I’ll be at breaking point as my parents will keep being the topic of conversation?